“Nothing is either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” ~William Shakespeare
Research tells us that lottery winners are no happier than people who did not win. And many times, become miserable and depressed in the years following their win.
Scientists have inferred that we all have a baseline level of happiness. This baseline of happiness can be understood as a range of joy we’ll stay within irrespective of our external circumstances. The most important factor in determining this joy is our mental attitude.
If you’d like to alter and change your baseline, instead of trying to change your external circumstances, change the way you interpret them.
This sounds so much easier said than done because it is. If you are someone who has always seen the glass as half-empty, you would not transform into a positive thinker overnight. But you can take one small simple step towards more positive thinking.
Today, pay attention to the way you react to things that happen to you or around you. First, acknowledge negative situations. Then realize you do not have to respond instantly. And most importantly you do not have to respond negatively. Give it some time and thought, you may even be able to see it as a blessing in disguise.
For instance, if your child gets into a minor accident in your car, you have an opportunity to teach them how to rebound from mistakes and errors. If your co-worker gets the promotion you aspired for, you have an extra incentive to show your seniors what you can do, which might help you more in the longer run.
We can’t always control what happens to us. However, we can always control how we respond, which ultimately determines how we feel.